See a PERSON, not a homosexual. we’re not a clean-up campaign: we’re ambassadors of love. How would you approach ANY person you felt need Christ? Paul Little’s book HOW TO GIVE AWAY YOUR FAITH might be a good one to read to get ideas. There’s nothing special about homosexuality as a sin in God’s eyes. Don’t let it cloud yours. Homosexuals are looking for love just like anyone else. Jesus is the answer for that need.
Remember that the gospel means “good news.” Be sure to present a Savior, not a code of ethics. Jesus is a real person, not a life philosophy. Don’t be so concerned about a particular sin. God wants to redeem the whole person, not just his sexuality.
Know what you are offering. You are offering Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. You are NOT offering heterosexuality. There is a difference between BEING homosexual and ACTING out homosexual behavior. When that person makes a commitment to Christ he must come into agreement with God that homosexual feelings are not going to change overnight. That will come with time, the care and concern of friends, and the quality of his own continued surrender to Christ.
Actively love that person. Words can be so empty. Demonstrate your love by listening, by calling, by confronting when necessary, by sitting together in church. Love is a verb.
Don’t be afraid to hear some “gory” details. Some folks don’t know how to express themselves in any way but street language. Listen with love and respond as you seek the counsel of Jesus. Love them where they are at.
Don’t be afraid to say “I love you.” Don’t be afraid to hug, hold hands in prayer, touch. We all need that physical affirmation of love from one another. Touching is not sexual, it’s loving. Gays need to learn the place of affection outside the context of sexual involvement. They won’t rape you. If your intentions are misunderstood, explain yourself, but don’t back away.
Share your life. Many coming from a gay background are surprised to realize that “regular folks” also wrestle with sexual temptation, loneliness, rejection, hurt, etc. that helps them put their lives in perspective.
Present the whole gospel. Jesus wants to set them free from lying, bitterness, pride, rebellion, you name it. Homosexual behavior and fantasy is only part of it.
Point them away from their sin. Let them see Jesus, the answer to all their sins. Don’t make homosexuality the focal point of your relationship. Stay away from gay and ex-gay jokes and stories. It’ll only draw them in further. For the same reason, avoid calling them ex-gays. They are WHOLE people in Christ. They are Christians.
Tell them about us. Share scripture like I Cor. 6:11 (“...and such were some of you...”) as well as testimonies of others who have come out of homosexuality. “Faith cometh by hearing...”
Written by Robbi Kenney, reprinted with permission from Outpost Ministries, Minneapolis, MN.